Becoming the most desirable spouse in the world
Let me remind you that a very happy and long-lasting marriage or relationship is possible but it will never happen without a personality upgrade. You cannot give what you don’t have and your spouse cannot give to you what he doesn’t have.
The reasonable thing to do is to become a type of person that is constantly desirable while your spouse or spouse-to-be do the same. Anything outside this process is an invitation to avoidable imbroglio in marriage.
Are you good enough already? The answer is NO with emphasis.
When you were born, your inherited some of your parent’s imperfection. As a matter of fact, a psychology research has shown that you will mirror the same type of life or similar to the one your parents had. That already puts you at a disadvantage if your parent’s vices were more than their ‘goodness’.
As you grew up, you were introduced to literatures, videos, music that corrupted your programming and operating system. You took them all in and thought you were growing but your greatness was diminishing bit by bit.
You start to relate to friends and learned hostility, jealousy, selfishness and negative tendencies. Of Course, you learned some good things as well but the vices you unconsciously picked up were more. This is where you build wicked ideologies and beliefs but to you they were ideal.
I am sorry to announce to you this is not how you were meant to be and once the foundation is polluted, the fruit will be undesirable.
Now, you will marry with all these baggage such as addictive masturbation, sexual addiction, stealing, lying, pornography, low self-esteem, arrogance, pride, loose tongue, selfishness, and many others.
What do you think the result will be? Yes, your desire to have a home can make it work for a few years or months but your operating system will soon rear its head under pressure.
While I cannot exhaust this topic in this one piece, I would endeavor to show you what you need to start doing to recover your life and build a happy and long-lasting marriage.
Kindness makes an unattractive woman or man attractive. It is the currency you have to redefine yourself. Inherent in every man is the capacity to be good and to be bad. The situations and pressures of life tend to spur us in the bad direction but you must be deliberate about going in the opposite direction.
Develop what I call a Kind-Act – one kind thing you will do daily to anyone and everyone you meet. This is the beginning of building one of the most powerful habits of all. In every situation whether with your spouse or other people, ask the most powerful question of all – am I kind enough?
Greatness is in every man. Happy and Long lasting marriage is potentially in every union but fear is holding you back from achieving it. What is Fear? It is a subject you don’t understand. When a baby hears a loud sound, she cries and gets afraid but after a few years and an understanding of where the sound is coming from and why the same person revel in the sound. Why? Light and understanding have come.
You are too afraid of failing in life or marriage. Bin that Fear and do what you’ve got to do. You have a big project that would make you feel good about yourself but you are afraid of the cost. You are afraid of what people will say when you fail. Hello, did you notice that children are the most daring set of people – they can literarily walk into a fire but once they start getting burned, they stop attempting. That’s how fear is built.
You are an adult now, you may have been programmed to fear but it’s time for reprogramming – the worst that will happen is that you will succeed. That’s how to see things. Fear Nothing, Do Something.
Guided by Legacy
In the HVP certification program where we help people become High-Value Partners, I constantly ask couples this question, if you die today, would you be proud of the memory you have left with your spouse?
This is why you must be intentional in your dealings in life, relationship, and marriage. If you are guided by creating a legacy for your wife, you will never slap her. If you are guided by creating a legacy for your husband, you will never starve him or use sex as a bargaining chip. Singles who are guided by legacy don’t break hearts up and down; they help, support, assist and make others better.
Hey, my name is Gabriel and I’m in the business of making sure you don’t ever have to consider divorce or break up. However, I only like to do this for you before you get married because that’s when I can easily help you uninstall all the negative programming and operating system that is guaranteed to make your love life and marriage a hell hole.
I and my team use a system called E.P.A.T of The High-Value Partner Principle. We get you to become a certain type of person who can build a certain kind of life or marriage.
You can call me coach, expert, author, speaker, trainer or whatever you like. These are roles I fill at different times but they don’t define me.
I am simply a guy who is becoming the High-Value Partner and wants to help you do the same while we make God proud together. I am on a mission to make Happy Marriages Common by mentally programming you to operate with superior values, even if you are still single!
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